Most humans would agree that fear, anger, and pain don’t feel good or create positive outcomes most of the time. While these emotions arise for various reasons, they are also typical reactions for people who are experiencing or have experienced trauma. According to the National Council for Behavioral Health, 70% of adults (roughly 224 million people) in the U.S. have experienced some type of traumatic event at least once in their lives. Researchers have found that trauma can be passed down from a parent to their offspring and are working on advancing knowledge in this area. Research on the correction of trauma through positive experiences is also on the rise.
Siera (S.J.W.) Whitaker is a self-proclaimed creator-preneur, educator, and writer. Her work centers on healing, self-awareness, and self-care. She is the co-founder and CEO of Affirm Noire and founder of Sis on High. Her goal is to help BIWOC find happiness through financial stability and radical self-care.
The social stigmas that exist about Black women are completely non-sensical. I mean maybe that’s needless to say since most stigmas are wrong in some way. The over-generalization we do as people should really be illegal. But then so many of us would be in jail! Unfortunately, there are tons of false information circulating as fact about Black women that won’t ever be retracted. As a Black woman myself, I find the gall of some media outlets and the stories they write unnerving and outrageous. Remember when Psychology Today published a blog post by Dr. Satoshi Kanazawa titled “Why Are African-American Women Less Physically Attractive Than Other Women?”
Black mothers, not all but many, have struggled for generations to show love openly to their daughters. When us daughters speak of our mothers, we always seem to justify the absence of this seemingly simple gesture of affection by saying they were just trying to survive. We say they had a lot on their plates, especially with a husband and other children. Perhaps some of us have even said that they were learning to mother during a time where drugs were being pushed into their communities.
Everyone can’t share Mother’s Day with their mom because not everybody’s mom is alive. Somehow, America has forgotten to consider this most basic thought in the planning of its beloved culture. As a result, those who no longer have their moms with them must adjust to a busload of triggers. Here are some points to consider regarding those people whose mothers are no longer with them: